Hello and welcome to this latest news post.
I have a new substack and I commented on a post by Janice Fiamenco.
A lady by the name of Trish Randall actually made a sensible, professional, polite reply to me.
This is so unusual that I thought I would put a copy here for Trish to refer to since she did not want to put it as a post on her blog.
You can go and see the original on this link.
Link to Trish Randall’s Comment
Perhaps women like Karen Straughn, Bettina Arndt, Miranda Devine and Pearl Davis could learn from Trish Randall. They won’t learn from me.
Peter, I hope that you won’t dismiss me as just trying to look like the girl who is different from the other girls. I am aware I have the same evolved structures and hormones as any other human female, which comes with strong tendencies in terms of how I think and feel. As an example (not an important one, but one I can think of off the top of my head), even though I always tested very in mathematics, I am awful at chess, as most women are. Only 5% of chess grandmasters are women. I believe this inability to do the kind of strategic thinking that men are evolved to be very efficient at, and even do for fun, is what makes women in politics so dreadful to endure.(like e-sports, where there’s no females in the top 500 every year).
I felt truly horrified reading what your wife did to you. As a kid, I had a beloved uncle who married an abusive woman. When she died in a car crash, he married another. He was stoic. It was only later that my mother (his sister) told me some of what was done to him. I sincerely hope that, despite the current cruel systems you must endure that you have someone. in your real life who cares about you.
In the US there was recently a case where a woman called police to complain that a boyfriend she broke up with 10 years ago had kicked in her door and beaten her. When the cops turned up at his house, he was clearly in a wheelchair, as he had been for some time because he lost the use of his legs. Because it was a “domestic” call police didn’t think they had the authority to just lave the man alone. A lot of commenters think that she must not have known what happened to him in the intervening ten years or she wouldn’t have made such an impossible accusation. Me? I’m not so sure. She might have been fully aware they’d haul him off anyway and vindictive enough to do it anyway.
I think it was my typical female habit of watching true crime TV that lead me to watching actual trials (all proceedings fully televised) that woke me up to the injustices that feminists have installed into “the system” at every level.
I hate what has been done to your country, and mine, with women in political power, including on juries. It’s also decisions women make on a more individual level that show our inadequacy in long-term thinking. In the US 80% of divorces are initiated by women. A survey of women 5 years after divorce showed 80% regretted it.
I know from observing friends whose families have endured divorce, and reading about the larger effects on society, that the aftermath is catastrophic and ripples out for the lifetime of everyone involved.
I don’t want you to think I’m trying to prove that I am in any way better than other women. In my youth I did things of which I am now very ashamed, in terms of not taking men’s emotions seriously, and in my cute years, taking it as normal and fair that I was given treatment and perks I in no way earned or deserved.
I got lucky enough to meet and marry a very good man while I was still young. I made the decision early in our marriage to follow his lead (this was before watching trials and learning about evolutionary biology and watching what female leadership has wrought). If it’s long term planning or finances, his is the last word. Maybe I do this out of a certain amount of womanly selfishness, but I feel safer, less anxious and loved with things this way. If I have a suggestion or idea, he will hear me out, and often he’ll agree.
What makes me sad is how many young women, especially those who self-identify as conservative, who are horrified at the kind of set-up my husband and I have, where he is the leader, and I don’t expect tog et fulfillment from working outside the home (not that I’ve never had a job). Women who say they’re happiest staying home with babies are accused of “internalized misogyny” for not thinking ahead to the day when they can enter the paid workforce.
I was physically unable to have children. Maybe this allowed me to live in a little bubble, insulated interacting with modern schools and other mothers, with a lot of time on my hands compared to other young women and mothers. Perhaps if I didn’t live in this bubble I might have not had the time to watch trials and read evolutionary biology and I might have fallen into thinking that things are as they should be and if they weren’t this way in the past, then the past was deficient.
One thing I will say, at least for women of my generation and older, informed by observations and my understanding of evolutionary biology. When I was young, in the late 1960s, feminists started calling themselves the Women’s Movement. This was brilliantly evil. Women, especially the young, have malleability of mind. This is because most primates have a life pattern where the female goes to live with the tribe of her mate, and has to adapt. Females in general tend to go quiet when most of the girls are agreeing on something. The “Women’s Movement” was very loud and very activist, but it wasn’t all women. But their goals got pushed through.
An example is Ms. When that honorific was first proposed, it was supposed to be an alternative, a 3rd choice, so women in the work world would be able to conceal their marital status, for privacy, of course. For at least 15 years, I didn’t know a single woman who chose to go by Ms. Even my very feminist aunt became Mrs. & took her husband’s name. But by the time I was out of college and working as a secretary in the city, Ms. just became the default because it saved time confirming the women’s honorifics were correct. Plus, the Mrs. & Miss women tended to not complain if they got a piece of mail addressed “Ms.” but if a Ms. got one of the other two, there would be complaints. (I worked for a Ms. It was awful).
I don’t believe that women all decided to push for the changes that have been so destructive to o ur civilization. But I do believe that feminists male and female and communists used the weaknesses of women as a mechanism to get these things installed, and women don’t have the clarity of thought to have actively resisted as they happened, nor to find a way back to a sane society.
Male feminists? Yeah, like Hugh Hefner, who didn’t fight back when feminists complained Playboy was sexist and objectified women, and who donated to Planned Parenthood, day care centers and other feminist wish list items. There were the men of the CIA who groomed Gloria Steinem and created and funded Ms. Magazine.Also, despite how it’s portrayed today, at least in the US, women didn’t not “achieve” the vote. I don’t know how it went down in Britain. In the US, it was men who voted to give the vote to women. All the famous 19th century feminists came from wealthy families, often supported by doting fathers or milquetoast husbands.
I don’t expect you to applaud me as a better woman than other women. I know I am flawed and have committed sins and have plenty to be ashamed of. I know I have all the weaknesses that all women have, including the wish to be rescued.
I wish you well, Peter.
